If you’re a casual online dater, there’s a chance my insights and evaluations don’t apply to you. So as you read, remember: I’m talking about the pursuit of the long-term. As ridiculous as some of these sites are, they prove that online dating helps you hone in on exactly what you’re looking for in a partner. But I’m worried the guys on the free sites will be creeps.” –Cassie, 26 “It’s hard to know if a girl is taking it seriously.” “Which part? Is she really looking for something casual, or did she say that because she thinks she’s supposed to? The girls are way more serious on Match.” –David, 24″ “I go through phases [with online dating]. Don’t fill out your profile based on what you think someone wants you to say.
If you’ve had a different experience or want to share your story, please do so (nicely! I think girls assume guys don’t take online dating seriously, so they act too cool for it, which is a waste of time. I do, at least.” –James, 23 “I’m addicted to online dating. I’m always running into guys like, “Where do I know you from? My account is deactivated right now, because things got busy at work. If your ideal Friday night is to make dinner with friends and play Mario Kart because it’s hard to go out after a long week of work (may or may not be an excerpt from my now-deactivated Ok Cupid profile), put it out there.
If you’ve ever experienced false starts and frustrations in online dating, you probably feel like online dating sucks. There are a few—going on meetups, or being super friendly and starting conversations with everyone everywhere you go.
To be clear, I’m assessing online dating from the perspective of finding a serious relationship. I was worried about being lied to, being solicited for sex and going out with guys that weren’t as cute in person as they appeared online. You can find someone who is interested in your interests. There are really, really specific dating websites out there. When taken seriously, online dating is a great way to meet someone—but that’s just my opinion. I asked friends and coworkers ages 23-34 tell me what they think. My personal experience skews my opinions of online dating very positive, so I wanted to be inclusive of other opinions as well. “I want to try online dating, but I don’t know where to start.
I’ve never online dated just for fun, or just to hook up, or just because I was bored; I made an Ok Cupid profile in search of a serious boyfriend. Please take a moment to read this list; I dare you not to laugh out loud at least four times. I don’t want to pay for it, because then it feels like I can’t find a date on my own. Does she actually want to message with me, or is she just being polite? I find it so entertaining.” –Megan, 31 “I use Ok Cupid and Tinder, but would never use Match. In the end, I think online dating is successful if—and this is a pretty big if—you can be honest with yourself about two things: who you are, and what you’re looking for in a partner.
I sit on the boat, cast my line, and wonder why I even bother.
I can never tell how many fish are even in that murky water, but, judging by my lack of success, I’m thinking not that many.