This is a blog written by the man in the street for the man in the street; we are not presenting authoritative or ‘academic papers’ but sharing our thoughts and views, faithful to the Magisterium of today and yesterday (we hope!) Comments made and Posts to which we link are not necessarily supported by the authors of this blog, nor are the posts of either blogger the responsibility or views of the other!So follow these rules and make sure your companion keeps them too, then you will be able to look your children in the eye when you have to guide them on their way to marriage and family life.If your companion isn’t willing to keep the rules they are not the person you thought they were, and if they are going to let their passion run wild with you, then maybe they would have done that before -and are not the Catholic you think they are.I thought I would post these ‘Rules or Boundaries for Catholic Dating’ because today’s hook-up culture; today’s self-directive, self-expression culture, promotes things that can be most unhelpful to the soul!I have taken these from several sources, and while I suspect many will see them as over-the-top, the question must always be, ‘Can we really take too much trouble in protecting our soul from the fires of passion and hell’?That's obviously true once you're actually married, but it's also true you're married, even before you meet your future spouse.
They're thinking about this girl or this boy and the feelings they're having But, Jason said, If you keep in mind the person that you will someday meet and marry, you'll wait for them.Perhaps many of the young girls who do it don't realize just what is happening to their boyfriend when they kiss this way, but the boys know. In this article I hope to give evidence that French kissing in courtship at any age is sinful and so is long-term kissing on a couch.And, they complain, "Why are you getting me so turned on if you don't want to have sex? And, I will present a beautiful way of affection that a number of young people have used to replace this behavior, a way that has moved them from unchastity to chastity. The key Church teaching on chastity is found in the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC), "Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes." (CCC 2351) The unitive purpose implies the celebration of the existing marital love covenant.However, because they seldom hear (apart from our local youth group discussions on chastity) about what activities they should avoid to really be chaste, they often come back, get into French kissing with their boyfriends or girlfriends, and end up having sex. Some we come to know about because they have the baby. The point of all this is that it just isn't enough to encourage and even convince young people that they should be chaste in their relationships.Many high school students are unaware that there is another type of kissing. French kissing, because it's so highly stimulating is almost an implicit invitation to have. We need to tell them what specific behavior they should avoid, and I submit, what good behavior they can replace the bad behavior with.or sit alone together in a car: such seclusion only gives space to say or do something you wouldn’t say or do in front of your parents or your priest -which probably means they shouldn’t be said or done at all.